Sometimes Being Nice Wins!

I had to visit my local chemist to collect some medicine, something I do on a weekly basis, only to find it was rather busy. As I stood patiently waiting my turn, another customer entered the shop obviously looking to collect their prescription also. Anyway, having been a regular customer at the chemist the pharmacist struck up a mini conversation with me whereby I asked about some dressing films, bearing in mind technically it is still my ‘turn’ in this now slowly building queue, something us Brits do quite well. The pharmacist was more than helpful with my request at which point the other customer was being served by the assistant. The other customer was rather rude, stood there huffing and puffing and just tapping her fingers on the side as the pharmacist discussed the use of the dressing films with me. The pharmacist actually gave me the films for free, although I offered to pay for them, but I was told that I was always polite when I entered the store and never caused problems even when there were delays or the need to wait and they were close to their end date so it wasn’t a problem for her to give them to me. The other customer was still huffing and puffing at the fact the pharmacist was still discussing my medication changes with me and was determined to get the pharmacists attention. Now, the reason I gave this long description is because the pharmacist completely ignores the fact that I am overweight and of the curvy girl figure acknowledging me for the person I am, taking the time to speak to me simply because I am ‘nice and polite’ every time I go in there.

The other customer was eventually served within some time only to be really rude to the pharmacist and assistant simply because she had to wait. Niceness won out in that situation and to me I think a little bit of niceness can go a long way!  There is nothing wrong in being polite or even giving someone a smile, a small smile can always make someone feel better. I know in this world it can be a bit strange to smile at a stranger, they might think you are looking to have a row or even making fun of them, rather than the fact you are just trying to make someone else’s day a little better! It reminds people that there are still some nice people out there even when we struggle through each and every day. Every one of us could probably pin point one tiny thing we would want to change in our lives, one thing that makes us feel sad and helpless, but that tiny smile can change everything!

This brings me in to the next part of my blog. I have been into quite a few stores this week and ordered a few things online.. I ordered a couple of phone cases but turns out they were a bit cheap and flimsy so they ended up being returned. They have been more than helpful which is great. I was in Matalan the other day, I’ve been looking for an outfit for my friend’s birthday and been having zero luck. I was in there and having had no luck for myself I started having a look for the Mr. He has a few bits he likes but he had a meeting and I thought a new shirt might bring him some luck. As I searched for his size I noted 4 maybe 5 members of staff standing around chattering to themselves, they were discussing that working at Matalan was a dead end job and that they were looking to be a gas engineer instead and would do anything for it. They were saying all kinds of things as I stood there struggling to find the right size shirt for the Mr, I was seriously annoyed as I thought any kind of work would be a good thing given the current climate! I was also seriously annoyed because I wasn’t able to find anything I wanted and to hear these people just standing there gossiping like this was completely inappropriate!! I was getting flustered because I couldn’t find anything that looked half way decent on my frame for a reasonable price. Leading me back to trolling through the internet. I purchased the Claire Richards Kimono and having noticed a small tear in it, I returned it for a replacement, however I was met with a lot of resistance via their customer service assistants on the telephone. I was contacted by fashion world and was offered some help with it and I was even offered the opportunity to try a dress for them for up to a certain amount of money, with the promise to review said item. I’ve not heard anything back about the dress I chose in the end but I did give feed back as to why I chose the dress that I did given I seem to understand my size and frame enough to know what may or may not suit me whilst taking the opportunity to try something a little unusual. Unfortunately I haven’t heard anything since that email exchange Wednesday, even a confirmation of order?! Hmmmm I will keep you all posted regards that! I may have shot myself in the foot in sharing that information but I’d like to think that it would be a great opportunity, even if it only meant I managed to share my opinions about why I chose what I did, even if it doesn’t materialise. My basic problems were that the options available were all shown on models of the smallest size for the item I was looking at so of course the dresses and clothes looked pretty great, secondly there were very few items I would want to purchase and show off to their full advantage simply because I would want to cover them up immediately with a cardigan because I choose to hide my arms, or I wear loose fitting clothes around my tummy as it is a problematic area for me.

I’ve contemplated ordering a couple of things anyway to see how they look but I haven’t really gotten around to it. Mainly because I haven’t had the best experience as yet, plus I still have a few other places to look, in fact I feel me and my old pal eBay are going to being getting along fine for the next few days. I know that can be a huge risk but at the same time can get some really great bargains last minute, plus the only problems I encounter there are with the sellers as opposed to customer service, although selling on eBay I would avoid for the moment given recent personal experience, a story for another time though…

Anyway, I recently fell across this picture online.

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Now, I am a huge advocate of the plus size figure, having one myself means I have come to terms with the highs and lows of having this amazing gift. I have some respect for the front this poster but I must point out that while I would love to see a doll like this would it really need a face to go with it that resembles that shown in this picture? Firstly, not all plus size people carry double chins as obvious as this so I am slightly offended and secondly why does it need to be considered as a ‘like’ or ‘comment’ feature, as I’m sure you can tell, the comments weren’t exactly flattering but given the image used it was hardly likely to be anything else. Now I must reiterate that I am not about to support the plus size figure on the basis that it’s a great idea, some plus size women are actually extremely healthy and are simply a target of ridicule purely because they have to purchase plus size clothing ranges. It’s just so infuriating to think that just because I am bigger built it’s because I eat a small truckload of food daily, because I genuinely don’t do that!

I’m just really struggling to find a balance, but is it a self image thing or a problem simply because I haven’t been able to find anything suitable for a week! I can’t wear anything too short because my legs are chunky and swollen thanks to my accident and walking in heels is a nightmare so I can’t even try and work out a way to make them look longer! I’ve been looking at yours clothing and they seem to be really inexpensive which is a great little find! I’m just really looking into it a bit more but I’m looking forward to reviewing their service and clothes that come through etc… In fact I’m considering contacting a few companies to do a few trials of their service and clothes including their sizes available and how true to size they are… Could be a good little experiment but only if they allow me to do that! I’m happy to post links to their pages on my blog as well so maybe that might help? I’m not after free stuff !! I just want to throw my honest opinion out there for those to read.

I’ve actually just returned from a quick dash to the local A&E department, whereby in the waiting room I found myself the target of a young family, by young I mean a teenage couple and a Dad to the daughter. There was no direct pointing and laughing but sitting 6 seats away does not make me deaf. Yes, my jeans were a bit tight on my left leg emphasising my size, but that was why I was there! See a judgment without knowing the facts. Anyway, these 3 get called through and in walks a rather large lady and her son. She had a really pretty face but her body was rather large, she even felt the need to point out that her bum was too big for the seats and that sitting on the table was better for her! Two things went through my mind, 1 was that she felt the need to point the obvious out, but I thought she did this to avoid others passing that judgment on her and 2 that she was getting on with her life despite the barriers of the small chairs. I called this lady large because she was quite a big lady but I don’t mean it in any detrimental way, I’m so hoping that makes sense? It was quite sad to see actually, a woman feeling the need to make light of her situation in order to avoid some kind of ridicule. I’m not convinced that she would have been the victim of anything but she still needed to make a noise about it. I felt bad for her.

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I don’t know… I’m still confused and not feeling very positive, perhaps some retails therapy will resolve it?

Signing off of now, CG. xXx xXx

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